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Perhaps Life Is Becoming Dull

5 May 2008 · 11 Comments

Hello! I haven’t gone to Haiti to get my kids. Maybe I will hear something this week.

My mom was discharged from the hospital on Sunday morning, in her right mind! She had a CT scan and and MRI that were both normal in that they couldn’t explain her mental status changes. She does have a very bad sinus infection. She had a carotid doppler to check out how well blood flows through her carotid artery. She also had an EEG to see if she was having seizure activity. The last two tests haven’t been read yet. So, she was discharged with orders that she couldn’t drive until she followed up with the neurologist. With all the testing and prodding, the doctors also found a urinary tract infection. Geriatric patients sometimes have mental status changes as a first, even primary, sign of a  UTI. Could my mom be considered a geriatrics patient? Certainly, not. Why, that would mean she was old! I am not emotionally prepared to accept this so I won’t.

My grandfather’s blood pressure is stable. He is out of the ICU. He has been diagnosed with hepatolithiasis, essentially he has stones in his liver. One of them escaped his liver and is blocking the flow of his pancreatic enzymes. He was hospitalized on Thursday with pancreatitis and a systemic inflammatory response. I am not quite sure what can be done about his underlying problem. The doctor might try a minimally invasive procedure with sedation. Or, perhaps his physicians can try lithotripsy. I am not sure breaking up the stones will work. My grandfather is medically fragile. He uses an electronic chair because he is very weak. I would describe him as frail. I would not describe his as cachectic or emaciated; he is a large man. I just don’t know if the shock wave will be able to travel through his body and arrive at the stone possessing enough strength to do the job. I suppose now that he is stable, the physician will need to develop a treatment plan. Treatment plans don’t get made on the weekends.

I have a worry! By way of background, Marissa was asked to the prom and she said yes. She didn’t tell me at first because she wanted to go and was afraid I would say no. I didn’t really get the chance to help her identify all the steps she needed to take to go from saying yes to going to the prom. She started thinking of many of them on her own, but much like “clean your room,” the task was too big for her and created paralyzing anxiety instead of action. She cannot break a big job into little jobs. She will probably always need someone to help her do that. I am usually that someone, but there was that sticky worry that she might be told no. So, she didn’t ask me until it was too late. The boy who asked her rented a tux and was looking forward to going to the prom. Marissa didn’t even buy a dress. The Wednesday before the prom, somehow it was decided that they wouldn’t go since Marissa didn’t have a gown. This boy isn’t talking to Marissa. Marissa doesn’t understand why. Anyway, does anyone think it was time Marissa’s FASD became transparent to her peers? Marissa doesn’t want anyone to know, but it is long past the time that she could easily ”pass” for neurotypical. When people don’t understand her, they interpret her behavior based on their own reality. Why would a girl tell a boy she would go to the prom and then not plan to go? Well, a shy, awkward young man might come to some very wrong conclusions.

Friday Marissa and I went to see Expelled: No Intelligence Allowed. As I reviewed the concepts put forwarded in this documentary, I wondered how a Christian (and a home schooler who selects her daughter’s science curriculum) should respond to the animosity in the science community toward people who believe in a designer. My basic thoughts are that science should be taught as science and philosophy should not be taught as science. Science classes should focus on those things that are observable, measurable, testable and repeatable. How life began is none of these things. On a more universal level, I do not think Christians should continue to try to force school districts to add Creation or Intelligent Design to their science curriculum; they aren’t observable, measurable, repeatable or testable either. Speciation, adaptation and natural selection occur and can be observed in nature. Curriculum that speculate as to how life first began or whether or not speciation, adaptation and natural selection account for all life on this earth belongs in the area of philosophy and religion. Christians accept that God is the Creator by faith. Atheist accept that life occurred by chance by faith.

In my opinion, the fight has never been what happened to start life. In fact, the argument is not really about science at all. I have a masters degree in nursing. I took two semesters of chemistry, microbiology, human anatomy and physiology, advanced human physiology, and pathophysiology to get my undergraduate degree. I took graduate level physiology classes to get my masters. My nursing classes were heavily based upon the sciences. I was a nurse educator. Darwinism was not an issue. In my entire post-high school academic career, there wasn’t one test question relating to the theory. Even if evolutionary Darwinism is true (and I don’t believe it is), it is a slow process, a process that I won’t observe occurring in my patients. I could understand all of the concepts taught in those classes without ever wondering, “How did we get here?” I believe the main issue is, “What is the nature of man?” In Evolutionary Darwinism, man is a cosmic mistake without inherent value; a person’s value is directly tied to what he or she contributes to society. Man doesn’t have free will. He most certainly wasn’t endowed by his Creator with rights. Ethical decisions are focused on what is best for society and ignore the individual. I cannot embrace this view of man; I find it hopeless. Atheists find real hope in this view of man though. I think Christians sometimes imagine that this is because atheists want to sin and misbehave without answering to a higher authority. In some cases, that might be true. But, I think the bigger draw to this worldview is that, if evolution is true, mankind is still evolving. What hope is there for an evolved man? We could create Utopia. Sadly, history shows us Utopian societies don’t stay that way. A man-centered world simply doesn’t have an adequate way to deal with evil. Oops! There I go looking to the past instead of a perfect, evolved future again. We want the same thing you know. Christians look for a perfect future too, but not by mankind saving itself. Our perfect future comes when Christ returns to rule and reign on this earth, a one-world government that is available for all willing to submit to Christ’s authority. No one will be forced to be a part of the Kingdom through military might, coercion or a corrupt government.

Last, I was surprised by the interview with Richard Dawkins. He is supposed to be a great atheist apologist. Rule of thumb: When debating intellectual ideas, it is not nice and, more importantly, does not strengthen your argument to call people who don’t think like you insane, stupid and ignorant. I would never, ever tell an atheist he or she was insane, stupid or ignorant. Most of them are not. In fact, I would never even tell them they were going to go to hell. If someone doesn’t believe in a Creator, I will tell them why I do. If someone believes in a Creator, but isn’t sure that the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is the Creator, I will tell them why I think that the Judeo-Christian God is the Creator. If someone believes in the Judeo-Christian God, but does not believe Jesus is the Messiah, I will tell them why I believe Jesus is the Messiah. I am prepared to tell people how God has worked in my life since accepting Jesus as my Savior. But, it is simply not my job to change their mind. Don’t believe me? Read your Bible. I am not prepared to sit in judgement over anyone.

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11 responses so far ↓

  • Becky Hinchley // 5 May 2008 at 9:38 am

    Julie - I keep saying that too about Haiti “maybe this week!”.

    My heart just broke when I read the part about prom. That poor boy! It must be so difficult for Marissa…she wants to be like everyone else yet can’t function that way! I’ll be praying for you!

    Becky

  • Mrs. C // 5 May 2008 at 9:46 am

    Hey there! I feel so sorry for that young man. And for Marissa, too, because stuff like this can be so easily misinterpreted. Hopefully your mom is cleared with the neurologist soon and will be able to drive and do all the things she needs to keep her household in order!!

    BTW, I’m not seeing where either intelligent design OR evolution need to be taught in public schools. One, there is too much controversy and why upset the voters you need for the next bond issue? This is not a necessary item to put on the agenda that all students must know in order to be educated through their high school years. And two, I can tell you firsthand that evolution is a political idea as well as a “scientific” one. We were taught in public school in Australia that the Aborigines were really authentic Stone Age men, and not as evolved as “we” are. My opinion is that the idea of evolution leads to varying opinions as to which group of people are most evolved, with disastrous consequences.

    Though I don’t mind my older children knowing that scientists think “this” because of “that” thing they see which is observable. It’s more that I know how that idea can be very damagingly applied, that the idea of the survival of the fittest must necessarily mean that some people groups or individuals aren’t fit enough. Adapt or die.

    As always, a good post with some thoughtful insights. ;] You’re right that we don’t need to be nasty with people with whom we disagree. Some of them are my good friends!

  • Sombra // 5 May 2008 at 11:00 am

    I’m a Creationist without apology - and I agree, I’m not the Holy Spirit in anyone’s life, so I don’t feel that I need to coerce anyone into believing like I do.. but I will discuss it.

    I feel bad for the boy too.. and I know why you say no to a lot of things… poor Marissa being to scared to ask.. I hope she learns to at least ask in the future, being told no is better than what happened isn’t it? It seems everyone is hurting now.. sometimes life is just sad.

  • amanda // 5 May 2008 at 11:04 am

    I agree with you about science issues, and about telling people whether they are right or wrong in what they believe. I feel quite uncomfortable sitting in a church setting in which the preacher is hammering home that we need to let all our lost family and friends know they are going to hell with Jesus. If I were not a believer and someone told me that, I would just say, “Oh well, guess I’m going to hell, freak.”

    I’m looking forward to your absence in the blog world meaning that you are actually picking up your children. Still praying!
    amanda

  • Barbara // 5 May 2008 at 1:21 pm

    The movie was not about Darwinism/natural selection vs. intelligent design/creationism. The documentary was about the systematic suppression of discussion of one side - ID/C. Also in the movie, an illustration of the relationship between atheism and Darwinism, the relationship between these philosophies and eugenics.

    That one side is suppressed at all levels of education is a concern for all and a restriction of freedom. - That’s my take on it. No judgement of anyone.

    I agree with you that this is what the film was about. I wrote more to flush out my thoughts after having seen the movie. I don’t think we will win by stating that we have to teach ID/C in addition to Darwinism. I think our battle plan should be, we won’t speculate in the name of science and you shouldn’t either. Something that can’t be replicated, observed, tested and repeated simply doesn’t belong in a science class. It belongs in a philosophy or religion class.

  • Letitia // 5 May 2008 at 2:11 pm

    I am very glad your mom and grandfather are showing improvement. A lot going on.
    That would be hard decision as to whether to share with Marissa’s friends. On one hand, it could make them look at her differently. ON the other hand…..it could make them look at her differently…in a good way~explain some things. But, that’s hard to gauge. I wouldn’t do it against her wishes.

  • debd // 5 May 2008 at 2:55 pm

    So sorry about the young man who didn’t get to go to his prom. Will Marissa allow you to talk with the boys mom?

    I’ve heard that Dawkins isn’t all that good at true debating. Sounds like he’s a bit like Ann Coulter on the Left side- lots of name calling without a lot of substance. I also don’t like that kind of “debating” no matter which side the person is on.

    Actually, I know this boy’s mom. She was one of my students when I was teaching. Actually, all of this could have been avoided if Marissa hadn’t made the first, “Mom might say no so I am not asking her” decision.

  • Barbara // 5 May 2008 at 4:05 pm

    Sorry I did not have much time to write earlier. I need to remember not to even start in that circumstance. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the movie, and I don’t see any disagreement between us. I applaud you for taking Marissa and for making others aware of the movie. You share your position very well and in a positive manner.

    I also want to say I’m glad to hear your family is better. Thank the Lord!

    You share more concern for the prom situation than I think I would. I don’t see what the long term negative impact is on anyone involved. It’s a ‘natural consequence’ lesson for both children. I talk with the parents of all my children’s friends including the ones who are potential and actual ‘dates’. I don’t ask for my children’s permission to do that.

    I’m not seeing long term positive consequences for revealing that Marissa has a diagnosis. I encourage you to make the decision over allowing her to decide.

  • Bobbie-Jo // 5 May 2008 at 11:05 pm

    I can’t wait to see “Expelled.” Do you know if it will come out on DVD? We don’t live anywhere near a theatre.

    I’ve noticed that Marissa can understand somewhat complex theories about evolution vs creation, and social systems (in the post a bit ago about you not knowing “how to live wealthy”) but then can’t plan ahead to buy a dress. Is this typical for FASD? (I’m not interrogating you, just doing my research!)

    My brother (who is 12) tells his friends about having FASD. Mind you, being 12, some of that is for the shock of seeing their incredulous faces. Shouldn’t real friendship be based on truth? If it was a different disability that impaired functioning, would that change who you/she told? Ovbviously, many things shouldn’t be blabbed to anyone within earshot, but would coaching on who and when be effective? Again, just questions in preparation for my future. :)

    Glad to hear your family is back on the road towards health. Stressful times.

    Great summary of debate at the end, there!

  • Bobbie-Jo // 5 May 2008 at 11:06 pm

    I did not put that winky person up there!

  • Moz // 16 May 2008 at 11:10 am

    Hi there, atheist here catching up on the archives. Your blog is good reading, even if we don’t see eye-to-eye on literally everything. :)

    First off, it sounds like you might have a bit of confusion between Evolutionary Darwinism and Social Darwinism (the contribution-based system of valuing human life outlined above; Hitler was a fan). Most atheists revile the concept of Social Darwinism; since everyone knows how easily abused and confused that philosophy is, it’s avoided generally.

    Secondly, atheists don’t take anything at faith…that’s what defines an atheist. Atheists don’t accept that life occurred by chance as faith, we accept the fact that we just don’t know, but this particular theory sounds the most plausible/has the most scientific evidence behind it. We don’t, in general, even take it on faith that there isn’t a god(s), just that we don’t know and we haven’t seen any hard evidence, so we’re sticking to the earthly realm for now. If a god popped out of the clouds tomorrow, be they YHWH or Kali or Odin or Coyote, there’d be a lot of red-faced self-righteous atheists (probably Dawkins included, although I appreciate him giving a public voice to the faith-free) sneaking away, and a whole bunch of open-minded atheists coming up to shake their cosmic hand and ask the zillions of questions that have been rattling around our heads for years!

    (If I think that the teachings of Jesus are way cool, but I don’t believe in a god, what would that make me? Besides a pacifist, that is. :))

    Otherwise…I like your ideas for curriculum improvement, a lot. I also like that, since your beliefs are different from the public school mainstream, you’re taking your child’s education into your own hands instead of forcing everyone else to change. It’s pretty awesome and strong of you.

    Thank you for coming to my blog. I don’t have a lot of time to respond to your comment. I am on an indefinite blogging break as I am about to add a toddler and a preschooler to my household. But, I wanted to say a few things. First, I am quite sure we define faith differently. I define faith as something you believe even if you have never seen it, like life on this planet started without intervention by a higher being or that God (or aliens if you prefer) created life for a specific plan. Neither of us can prove our point to be a fact.

    Second, I do not home school my child because of my religious beliefs. My daughter was in public school for the first several years of her schooling (through 7th grade). She came home to school because she has fetal alcohol syndrome and the school refused to accomodate her needs. I felt they were negligent in the same way that a school who failed to provide ramps for a child with a wheelchair would be. I have no problem with my daughter understanding how other people think. In fact, I believe it is good for her. We discuss both evolution and creation in our home — just not as part of our science curriculum. We trace ideas through history; it is a foundation of our history and literature studies.

    Last, I have over 450 blog entries and I do not expect you to have read them all. Somewhere I asserted that I have known many, many atheists who do not embrace social Darwinism. In fact, I have known many people who would describe themselves as agnostic or atheist who are very, very compassionate, caring and devote much or their time and finances to improving the lifes of other people. Their charitable activities give their life meaning. However, I do not understand how their worldview can support their actions. If evolutionary Darwinism is true, mankind really has no inherent value. Children born with developmental abnormalities, whose care requires a lot of money, truly would be using resources that would more appropriately be used for others, the fittest. Nations and cultures who cannot compete on a global market really should be allowed to disappear. The fact that it is our predatory banking and political policies that put them there is of no importance because only the fittest should survive. I prefer a world where humans carry a spark of the divine, the crowning glory of God’s creation. (And, I realize that the corporate church has an abysmal history in acting upon what it says it believes.)

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