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FASD

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If you are pregnant or planning to become pregnant, please do not drink any alcohol.

Of all the substances of abuse, including heroin, cocaine, and marijuana, alcohol produces by far the most serious neurobehavioral effects in the fetus.”
-Institute of Medicine 1996 Report to Congress

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Anyone reading my blog might imagine that my faith is rock solid. Not true! Marissa challenged my faith. Our country’s art, music and philosophy promote a lifestyle in which drinking is normal, acceptable and expected. We celebrate promotions, births and weddings with a drink. We grieve by washing our sorrows away in a bottle. We relax with a glass of wine. And, we do this in spite of the fact that alcohol is a highly addictive drug that is directly responsible for motor vehicle deaths, acute and chronic illnesses and birth defects. We vocally defend alcohol as a freedom that cannot be legislated despite the cost of alcoholism and alcohol-related illnesses. We all want the freedom to choose to drink. Very few of us are willing to bear the cost of education, rehabilitation and support for people whose lives are impacted by alcohol and alcohol related diseases. Freedom without responsibility is anarchy and chaos.

Marissa is bearing the cost of our culture’s dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. Marissa was born with partial Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (pFAS). Most of the time she can easily ”pass” as a young lady with typical brain development. Her IQ is on the low side of normal. The IQ test is really a series of tests designed to evaluate intelligence in many different areas. On one of the subtests designed to measure verbal ability, Marissa tests in the top 2% (which is better than I would do). What the world sees and hears are Marissa’s phenomenal verbal skills.

Only those who know her well see that Marissa is not as coordinated as other kids. Her thoughts seem to be random or disconnected making it difficult for her to think critically, solve problems and advocate for herself. She has trouble receiving verbal and non-verbal communication. This means that, when people are trying to communicate an idea or thought to her, she has trouble taking all the pieces of information and understanding clearly what is being said. She has the same kind of problem reading a textbook. She can read very well. She learns all the pieces of information, but she doesn’t always understand the overall message being sent by all those facts. Her brain sometimes get stuck doing one thing and she will repeat behaviors over-and-over. When she is over-stimulated; she shuts down or tries to physically escape the environment. If she cannot escape (or be helped to escape) an overstimulating environment, she may rage. Our family has chosen to share her story in hopes that people can learn about Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders. FASD colors our whole life. It influences how I think, how I vote and who I consider a friend.

For you formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, {And} skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in your book were all written the days that were ordained {for me,} when as yet there was not one of them~ Psalm 139:13-16 (NAS)

A moment of silence was observed at 9:09 a.m., on Sept. 9, 1999. This day, with its plethora of nines, was chosen to symbolize the nine months of pregnancy and marks the first international awareness day for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD). On July 12, the Senate approved, by unanimous consent, a resolution designating September 9, 2006, as “National Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders Awareness Day.

The measure, sponsored by Sen. Lisa Murkowski (R-AK), contains a number of findings, including:

  • the incidence rate of fetal alcohol syndrome is estimated at 1 out of every 500 live births;
  • the incidence rate of fetal alcohol spectrum disorders is estimated at 1 out of every 100 live births; and
  • fetal alcohol spectrum disorders are a major cause of numerous social disorders, including learning disabilities, school failure, juvenile delinquency, homelessness, unemployment, mental illness, and crime
  • fetal alcohol spectrum disorders are the leading cause of mental retardation in western civilization, including the United States, and are 100 percent preventable;
  • 75-80% of people with FASD are not mentally retarded and have I.Q.s over 70

I know many people may feel it is a waste of their time to read a blog entry on this subject. This may be true. Let’s take a test to see if you should become more familiar with this topic.

Do you participate in corporate worship?

Do you pay taxes? The economic cost of fetal alcohol syndrome was $5.4 billion in 2003. It is estimated that each individual with fetal alcohol syndrome will cost taxpayers between $1.5 million and $3 million in his or her lifetime. Even people who present like Marissa with essentially normal IQs have tremendous long term needs due to secondary disabilities associated with FASD.

If you answered yes to any of these questions, FASD already affects you. FASD is an umbrella term describing the range of birth defects that can occur in an individual whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. This means that not everyone with FASD will have the same disabilities and abilities that Marissa has. Prenatal alcohol exposure can cause physical, mental, behavioral, and/or learning disabilities. The affects have lifelong implications. The embryo is at risk even at early stages of development before most women know they are pregnant. Since the damage caused by alcohol is related to cell death, FASD is irreversible. The effects last a lifetime. The diagnoses that commonly fall under the broad umbrella term of FASD are:

Alcohol related birth defects ~ alcohol can cause congenital malformations or abnormalities in the:

  • Heart
  • Skeleton
  • Kidneys
  • Eyes
  • Ears

Alcohol related Neurobehavioral Disorder(ARND): cognitive/behavioral abnormalities inconsistent with developmental level. It is important to remember that diagnosis of ARND is independent of the child’s developmental level. The child can have a normal IQ (they are not mentally retarded), seem developmentally on target and still present with signs of neuroligical impairment. One specialist in FASD research describes these kids as “talking way better than they think.” Also, be aware that these ARND exists without any facial features of FAS.

  • Attention deficit
  • Learning disability
  • Impulsiveness
  • Poor Judgment
  • Poor memory

Pre-K GraduationFetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)

NOTE: In the lip-philtrum guide a score of 4 or 5 is considered abnormal. When Marissa was diagnosed, the clinic scored her lip and the philtrum separately. Smiles can distort the shape of the lip and philtrum. The guide provides examples to use with people of European and African descent.

partial Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (pFAS)

  • Some components of the facial features seen in FAS
  • Either growth retardation, brain damage or cognitive/behavioral abnormalities inconsistent with developmental level (attention deficit, learning disability, impulsiveness, poor judgment, poor memory)

It is the responsibility of every parent to “Be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks, and look well to thy herds.” (Proverbs 27:23, KJV) In order to behave with a fallen and sinful heart, all of us, make behavior choices that do not really reflect what we feel. We may be very angry and choose to act as if we weren’t. We may be coveting a beautiful trinket at the store, but choose not to take it. In order for these “good choices” to have occured the brain must be functioning normally. The child must be able to remember a list of rules, use sound judgment to determine if the rule applies in this particular circumstance and make a deliberate decision about how to behave. The child must also understand abstract concepts like ownership. All of these subroutines require a brain that is functioning normally.

As a mother of a child with pFAS, I have told this story from a mom’s point of view. I have talked about children with FASD. Before I close, I want to remind my readers that prenatal alcohol exposure causes cell death. Dead is dead. Dead does not come back to life. Dead does not reproduce. Unless God chooses to heal my child in a miraculous way by quite literally raising the dead cells, my child with pFAS will become an adult with pFAS. Her neurological deficits will not magically disappear as she matures. My socially immature teen with poor judgment and impulse control problems will grow into a socially immature adult with poor judgment and impulse control problems. Her future is uncertain.

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  • Pam in Colorado // 8 August 2007 at 1:03 pm | Reply

    What a wonderful reminder that we are all Children of God and that we are responsible and accountable for the choices we make, but there are times when our choices have a greater effect on others, whether they want the effects or not.

    I’m glad your daughter has you. I feel anguish for you, though, who has to try to figure out how to help your daughter and the family as a whole when the FAS is causing turmoil for you all. I don’t mean this in a negative way, simply I understand the depth of need in such a situation, whether due to FAS or another underlying condition. It is tough, and it is glorious.

    I often feel burdened for the response, or lack of, from the “Christian community”. So much emphasis on growth, embracing the world for the sake of numbers, when we would be so much better off first admitting we have troubles within the family and working these out before we open the doors to non believers, believing that we will be able to “save them” when, in fact, we can’t save anyone, only God can and that once they walk through the doors of our churches, they won’t be entering into a healthy body so what we have to offer isn’t what they really need anyway.

    Services have become so surface and need to look pretty on that surface. Sometimes life isn’t so pretty and distraction happens. If only we would be willing to look at the human behind the skin and behaviour. To adapt our comfort zones and calm expectations and allow the real love and worship to happen. Straight rows facing a raised pulpit. Not very condusive to really seeing and hearing God in action. When we only have to look at the back of people’s heads, instead of gazing into each other’s faces, we don’t have to take responsibility for the needs in their lives.

    I don’t think this is what Jesus had in mind. Suffer the children takes on a whole new meaning. When these children become adults the situation doesn’t change, just the size of the body. The heart still has the same needs.

    Thanks for speaking out and for allowing your life to be less than comfortable for the sake of many.

  • Tracey Hayter // 4 October 2007 at 4:23 pm | Reply

    My son, Chris, has FAS. He was diagnosed at the age of 20 and is now 22. I became a Christian when I was 5 months pregnant and this was when I stopped drinking. I have never been an alcoholic, but was using alcohol at that time to blot out the emotional pain and turmoil I was in, not caring whether I lived or died.I could not have survived the years that followed without my faith in a loving and merciful God. He has carried us as a family through some of the most difficult and bleakest of circumstances and I need to keep reminding myself that there is a bigger picture that we cannot see. I now do all I can to promote awareness of FAS. Being a birth mum is painful but hopefully that pain can be used to help others.I love Chris to bits – he has taught me so much about love, compassion, patience and hope.I will never, ever give up on him.

    Tracey Hayter in UK

    • Debbie // 31 October 2009 at 6:14 pm | Reply

      Do you have any testimonies of any Christians who have had victory over fetal alcohol syndrome? Or who are aduls living somewhat normal lives? If you do, I would love to talk to them, email them, something. Thanks, and God bless you!

      • Acceptance-with-Joy // 1 November 2009 at 8:21 am | Reply

        Debbie, Welcome to my blog. I am struggling with how to answer your question. So, I will start with a quote by Jeff McNair of Disabled Christianity.

        “I will only say that if your perspective on disability is that the only answer, the only truly Christian response to disability is healing, then you need to meet a man named Paul who wrote a lot of the Bible, who apparently had a disability and although he asked God for healing was definitely not healed.

        So, if you are looking for adults who have been healed from their FAS, I would have to say, I don’t know of any adults who have had victory.

        But, I do know of people living well with FAS as adults. I would point you to Stephen Neafcy. He is the author of the book “The Long Way to Simple.”

  • Bobbie-Jo // 10 October 2007 at 4:58 pm | Reply

    I accidentally found your site and am so glad God led me here! I have three adopted boys, and all three were exposed to drugs in utero, and one was exposed to alcohol, although I don’t have a formal diagnosis. I am giving our Church family a presintation on these conditions in January, and I know I’ll come back here for inspiration. Thanks for clearly communicating such an important message.

  • Ettina // 6 November 2007 at 3:49 pm | Reply

    (third time writing this, due to network problems)
    I hate how that one link about ‘corporate worship’ describes disabled people as imperfect, as if normal people aren’t. I hate the phrase ‘perfectly normal’ that so many people use. I hate how so many people consider people like me (I’m autistic) inferior. Oh, people claim to be accepting of disabled people, but that seems to mean ‘we’ll try to make you as valuable (normal) as possible, instead of just throwing you away as defective goods’. I want people to really accept that we are not inferior, we are no more imperfect than anyone else (no one is perfect), we’re just different.
    And as far as I’m concerned, FAS is something good that comes from a bad thing. I know a kid who may have FAS. Frankly, I hope not, because though I do want to eradicate alcoholism (because of the suffering it causes to the alcoholics and the people they interact with), I’ll be sad if there are no more kids like him being born.

  • Dianne Labelle // 1 March 2008 at 11:13 pm | Reply

    this was a great site to come upon.
    raising adopted daughter affected by ARND, daily living is filled with 0-60 rages, daily challenges and thankful for great sites, fellow parents for support
    today was such a big day of rages, I am worn out,
    Dianne Labelle
    FASno-More Niagara

  • elfninosmom // 25 March 2008 at 1:06 pm | Reply

    I was surprised to read that Marissa – based on the photo, a strikingly beautiful young woman by any standard – is a victim of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I had always read that children with that syndrome had unusual facial features, and thus were easily identifiable. Thank you very much for educating me on this subject. :-)

  • hsmomma5 // 3 April 2008 at 9:20 am | Reply

    A friend referred me to your site and I am so glad they did. I am adoptive mom of five children. I do not have a formal diagnosis either, but it is suspected that two of them have this disorder. Someone told us about Fetal Alcohol Syndrome a couple of years ago and in reading your post it sounds just like them. Thank you for taking the time to share about this. You are blessing others with your knowledge of this subject.

  • Rhonda Blythe // 11 August 2008 at 12:19 am | Reply

    I have 3 adopted children with some degree of FASD – and I struggle most with what this says about my theology regarding sin. All three of my children seem to be unable to quit lying, stealing, and cheating. One of them also has been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I love these three so much, and pray for them constantly, but wonder sometimes if I am having any effect on them. It is so wonderful to hear from other Christian parents who face these same issues. Thanks so much, and God bless to all!
    Rhonda

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